You hear often that a parent knows their child best, especially when teachers are involved. And I would have a hard time disputing that, nor do I want to. Though as a teacher it can be easy to forget, when it disagrees with all things I have observed this child doing.
There have been a few instances this season where I've had to put my ego aside, and trust more in a parents word, than any knowledge I have of a child's ability.
The parent knows best. Mischievous, lazy skaters have become shining examples of work ethic with a strong eagerness to learn after following a parents request.
But even sometimes when a parent knows best, their intentions are misguided and they may be leading blind without the best interests of their child in mind.
After a standard email and reply came through my hands, I received a response I have never had before.
A parent, assuming because they had received no information about their skaters progress, that their 'child sucks'. My heart sank. When I started to imagine if words like these are thrown out easily to people they barely know, what is said to those close to them, and the child in question?
I had difficulty in forming a response to that one. Though more communication has been hopeful in this case.
Not focusing on the scenarios though, I am finding a common thread, with extremes at either end.
It has to do with intentions. Of course parents are going to ask questions and they have every right, and should be doing so. Without knowledge and information, poor decisions can be made. But why are these questions being asked? Are they looking for new information, or have they already made a decision and will stick to it regardless of what follows?
When it only involves those who can defend and speak for themselves, a poor word choice or miscommunication may not be detrimental. But when it involves children, who are growing with the words we feed them... we need to be informed. Thought before act becomes increasingly necessary. The responsibility should lie heavy on us role models, that we are forming people.
Intention is a start. How we follow through may forever be a building block in the foundation of a child.